Quantcast
Channel: Musings by Candlelight • Tina Schermer Sellers • Life, Relationships, Sexuality, Faith » shame
Browsing latest articles
Browse All 10 View Live

Image may be NSFW.
Clik here to view.

The Naked Truth about the Christian Purity Movement

The “Christian” Purity Movement is a focus on virginity prior to marriage.  It is a focus on “purity” and a focus on not doing sexual behaviors and not having sexual thoughts prior to marriage.  It...

View Article



Image may be NSFW.
Clik here to view.

TODAY’S PORN … What ALL Adults, Teens and Parents NEED to Understand About...

Recently I have met more and more people whose lives have been captured by internet porn.  They describe themselves compulsively preoccupied, seeped in cycles of shame and secrecy, and for many men,...

View Article

Image may be NSFW.
Clik here to view.

The Power of Love and the Silent Assault in the Christian Church

“There is no agony like bearing an untold story inside of you.” Maya Angelou I just came off of 5 days of pure bliss with our four kids – all in their 20’s – all with their Sweetheart’s and our...

View Article

Image may be NSFW.
Clik here to view.

To All the Waiting, Struggling, Ashamed Virgins …

I have had the privilege over the last two weeks to read the dissertation of a brilliant woman who has been studying how adult conservative Christians in Northern Ireland manage their sexuality and...

View Article

Image may be NSFW.
Clik here to view.

Do You Tell Your Kids the Truth? (about sex)

I grew up in a household where both my parents did anger in big and expressive ways.  As luck would have it, I was an introverted, happy-go-lucky, but sensitive kid.  This combo meant I learned very...

View Article


Image may be NSFW.
Clik here to view.

Are You “At Home” in Your Body? An interview …

Several months ago, I was interviewed by Jonalyn Fincher at Soulation on the impact of religious sexual shame on our ability to be ‘at home’ in our bodies and with our sexuality and sexual longing.  I...

View Article

Image may be NSFW.
Clik here to view.

Making Sex Ed Easy …. #1 in a 4 Part Blog Series: 12 Guidelines for...

Being a parent is a humbling endurance event … every day.  One minute it can be incredibly rewarding and the next incredibly frustrating.  So often when my kids were little I felt like I was flying by...

View Article

Image may be NSFW.
Clik here to view.

Making Sex-Ed Easy … #2 in a Blog Series: Parenting Preschoolers … H.E.L.P!

Preschoolers, little ones ages 3 to 5, are the epitome of sensual and curious little creatures!  During this time they develop a strong sense of themselves as a boy or a girl and what that means to the...

View Article


Image may be NSFW.
Clik here to view.

Making Sex Ed Easy …. # 4 in a Blog Series: Parenting 9 – 12 Year Olds

Let’s begin this final (long …) post in this series with first talking a bit about puberty to get us all on the same page.  Puberty is the time frame when the body changes from that of a child to …...

View Article


Image may be NSFW.
Clik here to view.

How the Purity Movement Causes Symptoms of Sexual Abuse

I put the paper down.  I was 15 papers in with 17 to go – sexual autobiography assignments of my graduate family therapy students. It was the second paper I had read in the last two hours of a young...

View Article
Browsing latest articles
Browse All 10 View Live




Latest Images